Crush Self Doubt With a Manifesto

One important thing to know as you read this post is that I have this crazy bitch who lives in me and who’s sole purpose is to convince me that everything I do or think is absurd and out of my reach. I call her Lilith. If you want to learn more about your inner critic, check out some of Coach Jennie’s work. She’s awesome! Thanks to M. Shannon Hernandez of The Writing Whisperer I’ve been thinking a lot about writing a manifesto. Hers is fantastic (and a work of art, if I do say so myself). So I went on a hunt to find ways to crush self doubt with a manifesto.

I was doing some research and stumbled on this beauty by Corbett Barr and had to share it. It speaks to me and I plan on using it to help me shut down Lilith for good. One of my favorite lines is “You don’t have to wait for permission and you don’t need anyone else to grant you status.” Yes, Lilith I absolutely do know more than you give me credit for.

So, I started working on my manifesto. I call it my creative creed. I have a feeling this will be a work in progress.

Do you have an inner critic? Can creating a manifesto for yourself help you recognize how great you really are?

Who is Sandy Wiles, Really?

Today I was actually going to do a review of my awesome new planner but I really felt like I needed to tell you a little about me and why I’m here. So the word for today is flexibility and I’m switching things up a bit.

For the better of eight years I have tried desperately to keep separate all of the moving parts that are my life.

This year has been eye-opening for me. I’m not exactly sure what shifted in me, and it really doesn’t matter. The fact is there was a shift. I am now running my business for myself in ways that feel comfortable to me.

All the reading I’ve done on the subject, all of the training I’ve taken, and all of the good advice I’ve been given over the years has said keep your businesses separate or you may confuse people; don’t share too much of your politics or religion or you may offend some of your biz peeps; don’t reveal too much of your personal life.

Well, I’ve never been a traditionalist and I firmly believe that my work and my life — web design, network marketer, mother, Christian, girl scout helper — everything is somehow joined and by being shared in one location can hopefully benefit someone else. So to kick this off right, I wanted to share some things about me that you may or may not know.

  1. I guess in keeping with not being a traditionalist, I don’t dig traditional Christmas colors (red and green). I decorate everything in silver/white and light blue.
  2. I would LOVE to live in a Mandala home.
  3. I don’t ever watch scary movies. Never.
  4. I don’t own a microwave right now. The only thing I really miss is microwavable popcorn.
  5. Yes, my name is Sandra Lee. I got tons of jokes during the Grease era. As much as I have avoided using that name for many years (most people call me Sandy), I am growing into it and learning to love it.
  6. I hate flying. I avoid most trips that involve flying. I know it’s silly but it is what it is and I’m okay with it.
  7. I love pajamas — all kinds of pajamas for all the seasons.
  8. I have had thyroid cancer twice. I don’t normally call myself a survivor mainly because the struggle was more emotional than physical and I have a hard time using that word. I’m searching for something else to use in the meantime. Suggestions welcome!
  9. I sing in the car…loud.
  10. My niece calls me a hippy and,yeah, it feels right.
  11. I opened my business in January 2007. I am a digital badass, and all around tech diva. I love the constant challenge this part of my business brings me. As much as I love technology, I love color and graphics and fonts just as much. That’s what makes me a creative geek.
  12. I’m a bit of an introvert. That doesn’t mean I’m not social; I just prefer to work in a crazy, uninterrupted focus.
  13. I’m a single mother and have been blessed with an amazing, beautiful, daughter (even if she hacks my Instagram account occasionally).
  14. I really enjoy coloring.
  15. I am an optimist. No matter my path, I know that I have been blessed with so much.

So there is a small peek into who I am. I would love to learn something new about you too; drop me a note in the comments and share a bit of who you are.


Lessons Learned + Making the Most Of It

I was reading this awesome post today and was so struck by it that I had to write my own.

As I say goodbye to 2013, I knew I needed to share my thoughts and the lessons learned. This year hasn’t been the easiest but I have learned more about my business in the past 12 months than I ever thought possible.

For a good part of the last 4 or 5 years, I worked with a client who had huge demands on my time, and I gave him that time. What happened at the end of 2012 took me by surprise and required most of 2013 to recover from. He went bankrupt. No signs. No warning. My business and my income took a massive hit. Lessons learned = NEVER give any one client so much of myself and my time that I don’t have the energy to do anything else.

The ironic part is I knew deep inside that this client was toxic and that I didn’t really love the work I was doing with him but I continued down that road anyway. Lessons learned = ALWAYS trust my intuition and act on it.

Initially I panicked. I had bills to pay but giving up was not, and never will be, an option. You see, I love what I do and the reasons that I do it. I can’t imagine myself doing anything else. My only choice was to work my ass off and build it back up. And building it is what I’m doing.

This past year I started working with clients who are amazing at what they do. I started doing only the work that I love to do. I started selecting who I follow and learn from. I STARTED MAKING CHOICES.

Yes, I am super excited about 2014 and the possibilities I see. And yes, I’m a little bit scared because I have every intention of pushing myself so far outside my comfort zone that major successes are inevitable. As with everything else in my life, I can look back with sadness for the trials and struggles or I can look forward with great joy for all I’ve learned and the accomplishments and strength I’ve gained.

I choose forward!